Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Sunset and Veronica

Martha Engber will be back tomorrow, meantime I wanted to share lastnight's sunset with you. Somethings are just too beautiful to describe in words.



The next picture is Vera, my 93-year-old mother-in-law, fondly referred to as Grandma. She was out for the afternoon getting wood with her son.



Like everyone else, I'm fascinated by the fact that Grandma has survived so much: She's lost her husband, her daughter and 2 grandsons. Yet, she carries on, facing each day with a smile. I asked her how she does it. Her replied surprised me. "Being old is no fun. No one should live past their time."

At first I thought her comment contradicted her philosophy toward life, then I realized what she meant by "time." I think she means past the fun part.

12 comments :

  1. That's an absolutely exquisite sunset photo -- "the heavens declare the glory of God"!! And that's also a lovely photo of your MIL. She's obviously pretty spry for being 93 years young... spry enough to take that cane to her picture-taking son. ;)

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  2. Yes, how did you know? haha, he could use a good beating at least once a day. Okay, maybe 3x a week.

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  3. you're right, we see seniors and think they either found the secret or lost all their faculties. But what's the fun in watching your body and mind go to hell and there's nothing you can do about. Not much dignity in that. The alternative doesn't look too bright either. Vera looks pretty spry though. She must have learned something along the way.

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  4. I love this picture of your mil----my Dad just turned 92 maybe we could fix them up!! ha ha. My Dad is still pretty active. He still DRIVES a car!!!! He's careful---also he has a girlfriend--isn't that cute.
    I love the sunset too---wow!!!!

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  5. Well, I'm not too far from that age myself, and I understand about feeling you've past your "time" if the fun in living gives out. It's the same time that one's body strength gives out, by the way, when some become ill and others just can't get around as easily as a 50-year-old youngster. Still, oldsters are very resilient, and for me, I thank God for each new day when I can see something as beautiful as that sunset in your other photo.

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  6. Hi Anon.

    What surprised me the most is my take on being a senior has changed since my dear MIL has come to live with us. Though my own mother spent the last 3 years of her life here, I've conveniently forgotten those times. But now I'm witnessing just how hard it is to live with your body deserting you, your memory fooling you, and the sheer disappointment of not being able to contribute the way you once did. The fact that Vera isn't wallowing in self-pity is very honourable and I've learn to appreciate and admire her even more.

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  7. Oh, Katt. You're so funny. Vera is not too impressed with the thought of "dating". She thinks too highly of what little independence she does have.

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  8. Awesome picture of the sunset. Short post but it stirred up lots of thoughts & feelings on my part, some warm & some, not so great. (not your fault) I'll say this: Looking at the pic of Vera - her eyes show definite spark & focus. No self-pity - no quit. Hope things go well.

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  9. Guess I should read comments 1st. Missed your note about self-pity, so I guess I read the picture correctly.

    I remember when my dad's eyes lost their spark. Told Deb (it was spring) that he wouldn't make it through the summer. He didn't. I've got to stop looking at eyes.

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  10. Hi Dave. Yes, you see Vera correctly. She doesn't know what the word "pity" means. And I'm proud to say in all the years I've known her, she's never exhibited anything closely related to "pity".

    I remember the last week of my mother's life. Her eyes had gone dull but I tried to pretend otherwise.

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  11. A lovely sunset and words of wisdom all in one short post -- doesn't get better than that!

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  12. Thanks, Pat. Short isn't usually my forte. Actually, I usually get carried away, so being brief is a good sign.

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