How to Maintain a Happy and Healthy Relationship in Any Situation
by Vivienne Diane Neal
Whether you are in a business, family, casual, or committed relationship, there are certain shared qualities that men and women should have in order to maintain a happy and healthy union.
Before establishing any type of rapport with anyone, whether it is in the workplace, a romantic, platonic, or casual merger, it is vital to know who you are first, because you usually draw people who have similar qualities or as the saying goes, “You attract what you are.” If you do not feel good about yourself, then you will be a magnet for others who will have a low-opinion of themselves. This type of person will never value you as a human being. The name-calling, the offensive remark or the putting down of an individual will always be his or her main goal in life. These negative feelings, which can lead to violence or physical abuse, have no place in any type of relationship. If you are romantically involved with an abusive mate, remember, love is not supposed to hurt. If the office bully is your employer or an employee, morale and production may suffer and affect the company’s bottom line.
Get to know someone first before getting romantically involved with a person. The same can be true when you are seeking a friendship or a business partner. This means observing a person’s behavior around others, namely co-workers, associates, friends, family and parents. One should always follow his or her instincts. If something does not feel right, do not stick around for the outcome. If a person is abusive to family members, there is no way that individual is going to treat you any better. Moreover, do not think for one second, that you can change someone’s destructive behavior, because you cannot.
Communication is another key component in any relationship. Exchanging ideas involves not only talking but also listening. This does not mean that one has to agree with everything a person says; it just means that each person’s opinion is just as important. You can agree to disagree and still have a good relationship.
Respecting someone's cultural, racial, religious, ethnic background, sexual orientation and political beliefs plays an important role as to how well we connect with people. Certain behaviors that you participate in may be okay with some but not always sanctioned by others.
Enjoying each other’s company is essential. While life is not always perfect, why continue work or be with someone who is miserable and ends up making your life unbearable. All the unnecessary drama and negativity that people bring into your life will definitely bring you down. Your friend breaks up with her boyfriend; you end up losing your significant other; he despises his occupation; you no longer love your job. People who are always complaining or finding fault about one thing or another will eventually have you following their lead. You can be unhappy or preferably peaceful all by your lonesome.
Vivienne Diane Neal received her AA Degree from the Borough of Manhattan Community College in 1977 and her BS Degree in Home Economics from New York University in 1979. For over 16 years, she was a consultant to several home care agencies, training their home care workers in nutrition, meal planning and home management.
From 1982-1986, she was the publisher and editor of Gourmet News, a monthly newsletter, focusing on food, nutrition, shopping and cooking, and sponsored two cooking contests: Vegetable Cooking and Seafood Galore in 1985 and 1986 respectively. Gourmet News appeared in The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, and in several cottage industries' publications. Her article "Caribbean Delights was reprinted in part in the November/December 1984 issue of the now defunct Elancée Magazine.
Vivienne was also the publisher of Features and Information, from 1992-1996, which brought creative and fun ways to meet people in a comfortable and pleasant manner, suggestions on personal development and self-improvement, beneficial approaches to achieving and maintaining a healthy life-style through good food, diet and nutrition, travel tips, events and more.
From 1995-1999, Vivienne was the executive producer of Colorful Images, a monthly non-commercial cable TV program that featured good news, events, profiles of people doing positive acts in the community, celebrity, entertainment and business news.
In 2006, she started One World Singles, an all-inclusive dating site for singles of all colors, ages (18+) religions, ethnicities and lifestyles and One World Singles Magazine Blog, featuring articles and advice on dating, romance, love and so much more.
She authored and self-published her first book, Making Dollar$ and Cent$ Out Of Online Dating, which takes a humorous and honest approach to explain the difficulties of starting and running an online dating Website on half a shoestring budget. It is a personal journey into the ins and outs and the trials and tribulations Vivienne has faced and still does while trying to stay afloat in the ever-changing world of the Internet dating business.
Her second book, Shades of Deception, is an anthology of ten fictional short stories about lonely individuals and in their frantic search for love, romance and happiness become the targets and victims of treachery, fraud, scandal and revenge.
Vivienne has just completed her third book, Malicious Acts, a collection of five short stories that centers on men and women who will stop at nothing to get what they want. If it means disguising themselves as benevolent individuals and destroying lives along the way, they are up for the thrill. They will use romance, lust, greed and deceit as preludes to suck unsuspecting people out of their money. The book will go to print in the Fall of 2010.
Ms. Neal continues to write articles on love, romance, relationships and other topics of interests for Associated Content under the pseudonym hmcs.
Making Dollar$ And Cent$ Out Of Online Dating and Shades Deception are distributed worldwide and may be ordered from amazon.com, barnesandnoble.com and lulu.com