Wednesday, January 2, 2013

IWSG: Believe

Our very first Insecure Writer's Support Group post for 2013 -- thanks to Ninja Captain and IWSG creator Alex J. Cavanaugh! If you'd like to join, sign up at http://alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com/p/the-insecure-writers-support-group.html 

On the first Wednesday of every month, you can share, encourage, or express your insecurities among like-minded insecure writers. 



Having said that, I know how difficult sharing your insecurities can be. It's something that's never been easy for me.

By showing my insecurities I worry that I admit defeat and allow the world to see just what a scared kid I am.

Even now as I type, I'm not convinced I can ever be specific. My insecurities frighten me. Not to mention that experience has taught me that while honesty is fine, it can also come back to bite you in the butt.




My insecurity leaves me feeling lonely,

cold,

isolated.


Right about now you may be thinking What do you have to feel insecure about, Joylene? At least you've been published. Your dream came true. 


True.
Laura and Nancy, the catalysts for my publishing career

Self-doubt is part of who I am as a writer. I'm full of insecurities.

But guess what? Even Hemingway had his low days, as did Shakespeare and Dickens.

Still that doesn't get you through those dark days when you wonder if it'll ever happen: an actual contract. 



If you look closely in the photograph above, you'll see the word Believe

During my darkest moments, and I've had plenty, I never stopped believing.  I could no sooner quit writing than I could quit breathing.

Sound familiar?


If you published during 2012, you may have already figured out that being published won't solved your problems. Instead of worrying whether you're a writer, you're now faced with a greater fear: Will novels two, three, or four be well received?

The thing about insecurities is there is no assurances. While I do believe if your desire to be published is strong enough, it'll happen. But whether you're successful, that I don't know.


But I do know this:


- Stay hungry.

- Never stop believing.

- Ride those dark moments because -- they'll pass.

At least until the next low point. 


ps. Best wishes to you in 2013. May all your dreams come true. And may your insecurities drive you.

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  1. You're right - the fear doesn't stop with that first published book. New ones appear. But we just believe and keep moving forward.
    And your photos are amazing!

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  2. Your photo's are beyond amazing!

    Fear -- it is so easy to wrap it around you like a blanket in the bowels of winter. Believing becomes harder and the insecurity that maybe that first opportunity was just a fluke. Yeah, we are a negative group sometimes -- but that's why IWSG is such a blessing. Writing out those fears is extremely cathartic -- it's made all the difference for me.

    "I never stopped believing. I could no sooner quit writing than I could quit breathing."

    And that says it all for so many of us!

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    1. Happy New Year, Yolanda! Yes, let's hang out together in 2013 and enjoy the little things. Merci!

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  3. Joylene,
    Delighted to find your blog. I will return. Congratulations on being published! I have a touch of flu today so my concentration isn't at its best, but I will return to do a bit more reading in a few days.

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    1. Hope you're feeling better soon, Wendy. Happy New Year.

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  4. Anne Lamott in Bird by Bird writes something very similar. She cautions that publication is not the end of insecurities or the journey. So I'll raise a glass (of orange juice today) to you in congratulations of your success and also a toast to your future as you find your next project and path.

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  5. Joylene- I love, love, love your pictures. Especially of your tree with the "Believe" on it, and your cat in the background.

    No matter how much insecurity I suffer from, I will never stop writing either. It's just not an option.

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    1. That's the attitude, Jay. Never give up and never surrender. Happy New Year!

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  6. I believe...this is a very good post. *smile* Happy and secure 2013 to you, Joylene.

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    1. Happy New Year to you too, Keith. Have fun on your trip!

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  7. Congrats on your book!

    I believe that people in all jobs have low points where they question their competence. The people that don't strive to be better (and recognize that they can be better) end up staying at the bottom level of their jobs. I don't think we're that different than other people - we just express our angst better. :)

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  8. You are so brave to put yourself out there in such a candid way... that's really admirable Joylene!
    And yes, I'll be the first to say, but you are already published, so your insecurity shouldn't be as great as the unpubbed writer... which is so unfair because it makes sense that the insecurities don't go away. It seems that there are always new ones to deal with.
    Thanks for sharing.

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  9. It's so nice to hear those who have some success still doubt themselves. I'm sure you'll continue to push forward and make even bigger strides in the writing world. Here's to a wonderful new year!

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    1. From your words... Thanks J. Happy New Year.

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  10. Success doesn't seem to diminish insecurities, just put them in a different place. This is a beautiful post! I hope you have a beautiful, hope-filled year! :)

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  11. Believing is the key, but it's not as easy as it appears. I share your fear of being honest about my insecurities, since some people in the past have exploited that and caused me great heartache. We all have to keep moving forward, believing the dawn of a new day ushers in better opportunities.

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  12. Wonderful post and very important for people to remember. There will always be insecurities, worries and more goals to reach. Being published won't solve them, reaching certain sales goals, or meeting special people wont' solve them. Only our own desires, beliefs and faith can see us through the hard times because outside stimulation is just that, outside. And while that does touch and change us, it is who we are inside that determines whether or not we stick it out.

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  13. I'm publishing in 2013 and I've learned this the hard way. It helps me to stay anchored to why I started writing in the first place. =) Love the pictures.

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  14. There's always something new to fear, but conquering those things is part of the joy of life, I think. So bring 'em on. :-D

    Happy 2013!

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  15. Publication is probably just another stop on the writing journey. Keep believing in yourself and you will find the way ahead to what comes next.

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  16. I love the photos! I think you've overcome the greatest hurdle by being published in the first place, so that's a plus point in your favour when you feel the low points :)

    Jamie Gibbs
    IWSG co-host
    Mithril Wisdom

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  17. I also used to think that being a published author would be the end of the road, the golden achievement everyone fights for. Instead I found it is only the beginning of an equally long, tantalizing, and scary road. Just as dark as before, we all feel insecure and need a friendly pad on the back to reassure us that the light will come. I love this group because of that, because it keeps my faith alive. Thanks for sharing Joylene. I wish you the best of luck for this 2013. =)

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  18. Wonderful post, Joylene. The pictures are awesome. Happy New Year!

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  19. As writers it seems we always seek some form of validation, and what's so great about the IWSG is that we can come together and give each other support. But in the end, as your post reminds us, the most important validation must come from within. Believe: That what we're writing is important and worth doing!

    And huge congrats on being published. That's tres cool!

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  20. Always love your posts . . . and those photos are beautiful! With each new morning,more insecurities arise as my debut novel gets ready to release this month. But I just remind myself of why I wanted to publish in the first place, and pray. I pray a lot!

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    1. Jamie, we should do a guest spot for your book. I'll go to your blog and suggest that. Happy New Year!

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  21. As usual, Joylene, you manage to be inspiring and poignant. :) I love your pictures. Thank you.

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  22. Stay hungry is the one - I think it is the insecurities which help drive the creations - once anyone stops worrying and feels over confident I think the creative streak diminishes:) just mustn't let them overwhelm - you wont because you need to write - all the best:)

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    1. All the best to you too, Alberta! Happy New Year.

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  23. Joylene,
    I love your pictures and it made me wonder where you are from so I looked up Cluculz Lake, wow! Beautiful. I am also a Canadian and have as much snow probably but, in southern Ontario. Although I just checked the weather where you are and the weather where I am and right now we are a lot colder so maybe it is a little more temperate there.
    So, my writing insecurities are this: I have read a lot about writing and how to do it right and all about 'showing instead of telling'. I try to do that but keep slipping back into 'telling instead of showing' and so then I pick up some of my favourite authors and check them out and everybody seems to 'tell instead of show'!
    Anyone else have that dilemna?

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    1. I guess when you're famous you can pretty do whatever you like. LOL. I'm experiencing the same thing. My current read is full of tell. I kinda like it, and I've been losing the deep POV in my own work in favour of a bit more telling. I like the stream line effort because it's calmer to read sometimes.

      Happy New Year, Wendy.

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  24. I have my scared-little-kid moments at my age.

    I love the idea of staying hungry. I always want more and to do better than last time.

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  25. Hi Joylene,

    Well said and most thought provoking. I know that despite any insecurities, your passion, your drive, your belief, moved you onwards. And with the support and encouragement you received and pass onto others, the positive circle grows ever the stronger.

    In my case, I've never been worried about the fear of failure, but the fear of success. That probably doesn't make sense. I need to get out of my uncomfortable comfort zone.

    Thanks Joylene and a peaceful, positive New Year to you and your loved ones.

    In kindness and admiration,

    Gary

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    1. "Fear of Success" is actually quite common, Gary. A lot of folks feel that way. Which means you, my fine fellow, are not alone!

      Thanks for sharing such wonderful posts in 2012. Can't wait to see what you come up with this year.

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  26. That is all so very true. I think I have more insecurities now than I did before I was published. It never ends. And maybe that's a good thing. Means we're never so comfortable that we sit back and think we're all that. Keeps us humble. Happy New Year, Joylene!

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  27. "Never let them see you sweat!" Hmmm, maybe that's bad advice. ;) I still like Silbermann's comment about living at the intersection of terror and joy. Confidence vs. self-doubt, i.e., insecurity, is such a balancing act, but just acknowledging that it's a reality for other writers is encouraging.

    Love your photos today. There is beauty in that kind of loneliness.

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    1. Thanks, Carol. Happy New Year wishes and big hugs!

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  28. Like I said it once, the good thing about having a fear is how incredible it feels when you face it and overcome it. :)

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  29. Great post and very inspiring :-) I love the pictures too x

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  30. Hey, Joylene! I've missed being here- sorry to have been away for so long! I love your photos, especially the one of the snow-covered lake and Christmas lights on your railing and the one of your cat by the tree. I also love seeing you with people while selling your books. I admire how confidently and how well you go out there and sell your work. Not everyone does that, you know, so kudos to you.

    Keep up the good work!

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