Wednesday, January 4, 2017

IWSG: Tiempo, Temps, Mekwâc: Time


It’s time for another group posting of the IWSG: Insecure Writer’s Support Group! Time to release our fears to the world – or offer encouragement to those who are feeling neurotic. If you’d like to join us, click on the tab above and sign up. We post the first Wednesday of every month and encourage everyone to visit at least a dozen new blogs and leave a comment. Your words might be the encouragement someone needs.

Be sure to link to IWSG and display the badge in your post.

IWSG is the brainchild of our noble Ninja Captain and leader Alex J. Cavanaugh

Our hashtag is @IWSG


And we’re revving up IWSG Day to make it more fun and interactive! Every month, we'll announce a question that members can answer in their IWSG Day post. These questions may prompt you to share advice, insight, a personal experience or story. Include your answer to the question in your IWSG post or let it inspire your post if you are struggling with something to say. Remember, the question is optional!!!

January 4 Question: What writing rule do you wish you’d never heard?


Our wonderful co-hosts for the January 4 posting of the IWSG are Eva @ Lillicasplace,Crystal Collier, Sheena-kay Graham, Chemist Ken, LG Keltner, and Heather Gardner!

Please stop by and thank them for their time. 

T I M E


It's IWSG Wednesday and that means you have many blogs to visit; so I'll keep this brief. But know I could go on for pages. Why? Because too many writers believe there isn’t enough success to go around or enough readers. That couldn’t be furthest from the truth. There are enough readers for us all. Your triumph does not deter from mine. And vice versa. Please heed the following words, however sparse.


When I was a young writer, I found time cruel and unforgiving. 

"Slow down, Time," I'd cry. "Have mercy on me!" As if that would ensure I'd find a publisher.

The more I begged, the more Time dragged. I'd send out queries and wait months for a response. I'd check our mailbox with bated breath. (Sound familiar?) I did this every day until the millennium when publishers finally allowed email attachments. After that, I'd hound my inbox. In total I spent 27 years begging to be published.  

When I'd receive multiply rejections, I'd cry, mop, and wallow in self-pity, sometimes for up to two days.

Twenty-seven years. 


T  W  E  N  T  Y  -  S  E  V  E  N !


That's a long Time. 

You may have already heard I self-published in 2008 after my good friend and critique partner Keith Pyeatt did. I don't think Keith would mind if I shared that we were terribleinexperienced writers back then. Through sheer determination we carried on, never wavering in our support for each other. 

Shortly after Keith found his first publisher, I found mine. 

In 2016, I found my 4th.

You might assume that time had put me through the ringer. But honestly time never failed me. While there were moments I felt defeated, the feelings never lasted long. Okay, that's not true. I once quit writing for an entire year.   

Then I discovered the truth.

Would you like to know the three steps to becoming an author who actually sells copies? 

Attitude. 
Mindset.
Thoughts. 

Three steps.

First: Care about how you feel. 
Second: Believe in your success.
Third: Give thanks as if it's already happened.
 
Quantum Physics.

As corny as this may sound--and I'm sure a few of you are shaking your head--the only way to get what you want is to believe you already have it. Sure, it helps if you write everyday and you have critique partners you trust. (Thank you, Vicki, Chris, Merilyn, Alan, Keith, etc..)

Before you rise tomorrow morning, concentrate on thoughts that leave you smiling. Give thanks for what you have and for what you've yet to receive. Then do it again the next morning and the next. 

If you do this every day and you believe with all your heart that you're already successful, I promise... your life will change forever. Time will become what it's always been: irrelevant. 

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If you think I’m nuts, prove me wrong!


Congratulations to the winners of the 2016 The Insecure Writer's Support Group Anthology!

It was an honour helping to choose the finalist again this year. I salute: 


Lesleigh Nahay – Breath Between Seconds

Roland Yeomans - Sometimes They Come Back

Elizabeth Seckman - Mind Body Soul

Olga Godim - Captain Bulat

Ellen Jacobson - The Silvering

Erika Beebe - The Wheat Witch

Yvonne Ventresca – The Art of Remaining Bitter

Sean McLachlan - The Witch Bottle

Sarah Foster - The Last Dragon

Renee CheungMemoirs of a Forgotten Knight


Tyrean MartinsonOf Words and Swords

And the grand prize winner:

Jen Stanton Chandler - The Mysteries of Death and Life


66 comments :

  1. I absolutely LOVED this post! As I read your post, I felt your agony, defeat, and triumph. As always, you added a twist, "...prove me wrong" in itsy bitsy tiny print. Three simple steps we can all remember and follow.

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    1. Hola, mi amiga. Happy New Year. Happy Writing. Thanks for visiting. See you soon.

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  2. I don't think you're nuts at all! Attitude is everything, especially when you can't see the results you want. We have to keep our goals in font of us, even if it's just on a piece of tattered paper tacked to the wall over our computer. Thank you, thank you for this lovely, inspirational post!

    And thank you for all the hard work you and the other readers did for the anthology! I am honored and humbled beyond words to be a part of this year's anthology. I'm excited to read the other stories!

    Happy New Year!
    Jen

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    1. You're so welcome, Jen. And in for a huge treat. The stories were outstanding. Made me so happy to be part of IWSG. Happy New Year.

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  3. Now that is a testimony to perseverance! You'd had no publishers if you let those things defeat you.

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  4. There's a whole new book right here in your story!

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    1. I don't know. Sounds a bit whimpy to me. Hi Lee. Thanks for visiting. Happy new Year!

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  5. Excellent words! Time can be a friend or an enemy depending on one's attitude. I hate to admit how many years I've been writing without actively pursuing publication. I'm such a procrastinator!

    As for what rule I wish I'd never heard ... for me, "Write what you know" was misleading. I started out thinking my stories needed to reflect my lifestyle with characters who were familiar to me so I'd know how they would live and react. It took a while to realize I could "know" just about anything with a little research. LOL.

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    1. You're not alone, Carol. Took me a few years to realize the same. LOL. Happy New Year!

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  6. It doesn't matter how long it takes. But the harder we work for something, the more we will appreciate it.

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  7. Great advice. Thanks for sharing your story.

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    1. You're welcome, Cherie. Thanks for visiting.

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  8. I love your three steps. And Diane is right...it only matters that you get there, in your own time.

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    1. Yes, I agree. But at the time, oy vey! Hi Chrys!

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  9. The power of positive thinking is an amazing thing :) Changed my life.
    Nice to meet you!

    Jess
    www.jessicatherrien.com

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    1. Nice to meet you, too, Jessica. Enjoyed your post.

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  10. Giving thanks makes a huge difference.
    Wonderful post.

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  11. What an inspiring post, Joylene! It's important to be grateful for all the goodness we receive every day! Thanks for all the encouragement you have been giving me! Happy writing to you!

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    1. Thanks. Great post on your blog today. Loved it.

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  12. As I sit here drinking my morning coffee and reading your post, I feel very inspired and encouraged.

    Many thanks for all of the work you put into the contest. I'm thrilled to have been picked and still can't quite believe it.

    Cheers - Ellen

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    1. Happy for you, Ellen. I know the feeling. Savour it.

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  13. If you worry too much about how long something takes, you'll probably never get there. The trick is to just keep writing, knowing that one day you'll be successful. Thanks for the inspirational post.

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  14. Persist until you succeed, because persistence build confidences and evidences that you can do it. Never give up. Great post. Happy New Years.
    Juneta @ Writer's Gambit

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  15. Time should never be a shackle around your neck. Great point Joylene about not letting time hold you back. Glad to have been a January co-host for IWSG and wishing you a wonderful new year.

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    1. Same to you, Sheena-Kay. Hope 2017 is the best year ever.

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  16. I LOVE this. It's a marathon, not a sprint, as they say. Yet we always feel like we have to reach a certain goal within a certain time. Chelsea Handler had such a brilliant way of putting this. She said, "I never blow out someone else's candle to make mine brighter." There's space for all of us!!! Here's an article about what she said: http://www.elle.com/culture/movies-tv/videos/a38019/chelsea-handler-on-jealousy/

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    1. Thanks for Chelsea's link, Stephanie. I'm heading over to check it out now. Happy New Year.

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  17. Inspiring post to set 2017 going the right way, thank you.

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    1. Thank you, Roland. Happy New Year. Hope you're feeling better.

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  18. you get the award for most perseverant! and best example of showing how it pays off! thanks for the see it and go for it advice for 2017 - excellent!

    and thanks for supporting my Cradle Rock release tour!

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  19. Happy you stayed the course. I know perseverance pays off.

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  20. Always such wise words. Thanks for taking the time to share :-) Perseverance is key! You need grit to make it in this world at anything worthwhile. Happy New Year <3

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    1. Happy New Year, Jamie. I enjoyed your post very much.

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  21. Congrats to the winners!

    Time is something I am usually wishing I had more of so I could get more done each day. :) Definitely important to believe in yourself and to not feel like you are in competition with other writers.

    Happy New Year!
    ~Jess

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    1. you got it, Jess. It's all about feeling good.

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  22. Wow, thank you for this post, Joylene. It's especially timely for me, as I take the plunge and make fiction my full-time job this year.

    Do you have any tips for believing in yourself? That's what I struggle with the most.

    Happy New Year! And this was beautifully written, by the way.

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    1. As a matter of fact, I do have tips for believing in yourself, JH. And I'll post on those next time. Thank you for visiting. Means a lot.

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    1. You're welcome, Kelly. Thanks for visiting.

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  24. A wonderful an inspiring post to kick off the new year. Thanks Joylene. Congrats to all the anthology winners.

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  25. Hey Joylene,

    You can relax. Yep, eh, I've finally arrived!

    What an upbeat, positive post, Joylene. You are a wonderful example of resilience and determination. Your passion for the written word oozes in every word you have written.

    Thanks for this post and here's to a most positive 2017.

    Gary

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  26. Twenty seven years - that is a long time. You are an example and inspiration of what hard work and perseverance can accomplish. I appreciate that, truly. Your three steps remind me of the Biblical definition of faith, the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. I agree with your steps - keep moving forward, and keep believing in good things. Have a good week!

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  27. What a lovely and uplifting post! I'm so lucky that emails got popular otherwise I'd never have subbed anything--mail in Egypt is hit or miss, mostly miss. I finally have to admit being defeated by time. I can't market, do blog & personal stuff, and write. I haven't written in 9 months. Marketing has to go otherwise I'll never write again.

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    1. I'm in the same boat, Lexa. I'm so far behind. The secret is to accept how things are now and to believe writing will once again be front and centre.

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  28. What a good idea! We certainly need to be positive and fearless if we want to succeed.

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    1. Generally doesn't work the other way around. Strange if it did. LOL. Thanks, Nick.

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  29. 27 years! Whew. I don't have to panic then. There's still time. (I hope.) Of course, I must wonder how many publishers will still be around after the self-publishing revolution.

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    1. They worried that the radio would disappear on the advent of the television. Never going to happen. Cheers, Tamara.

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  30. I love that attitude. The first person who has to believe in you is you, eh? Thank you for that perspective.

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  31. Great post, Joylene. and I do believe in your three steps, especially giving thanks as if it has already happened.

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