Thursday, May 25, 2017

Featuring: Dreams, Goals and Adventures by Michael D. Ditton

I haven't been around much since I fell and broke my femur. Hip replacement surgery was successful, but immediately following that we sold our home of 25 years and need to be out before August 1, 2017. Yes, my world is spinning. I'm healing slowly, feeling a bit overwhelmed--BUT--I'm blogging today because today is special. 

I'm honoured to be included in my dear friend Michael D. Ditton's book tour for his book titled Dreams, Goals, and Adventure through MC Book Tours. I read Michael's book two years ago after meeting him at a La Cruz writer's group meeting in La Cruz de Huanacaxtle, Mexico. I was so impressed with his story that I wrote a review. 

Michael is one of those rare people who comes into your life and brightens it immediately. He's known adversity, heartache, and pain, but he's risen above it. And now he wants to help others do the same. I hope you'll take time to check out this wonderful book full of inspiration, hope, and encouragement. I promise it'll lift you up.  

My Review: A Simple Guide to Obtaining Your Goals.

Dreams, Goals, and Adventure is a small book filled with wonderful insights into creating the life of your dreams, no matter the circumstances. Michael Ditton's shows, through examples from his own life choices, that anyone can obtain their dreams. It's not magic. It's not about money. It's not about fate or luck. Goals and dreams are obtainable through planning and determination. Adventure is the icing on the cake. It's about believing in yourself. Creating doable goals and taking a chance on life. It's about faith.

I loved how as a young boy Michael Ditton knew instinctively that if he wanted to make something of himself, he had to dream, plan, and do. Yes, sometimes bad things happen to good people, but with strength of mind, by removing "can't" from your vocabulary, you can overcome anything. Life won't give up on you, so why would you give up on life? I applaud Mr. Ditton for using excerpts from his own experience to help me understand that if I'm not where I want to be, it's me holding me back, nobody else.

Dreams, Goals, and Adventure is a wonderful book that ended far too soon. I read it in one afternoon. I was right there with him when he got the dream job of running a hamburger stand while still too young to have a driver's licence. I was there when he saw Alaska for the first time, along with its endless possibilities of adventure. I was there when his buddy yelled at him in Costa Rica that they had to go because their boat's anchor hadn't secured, and their boat was travelling backwards through the harbour without them.

The best thing I got from this book ... I reached the last page knowing that life is about embracing happiness over defeat, that never surrendering means being too stubborn to giving up. There is no end to where I'm capable of going. Thank you, Michael. 

Michael and Crystal in Hawaii living the Dream

◊ Paperback: 148 pages
◊ Genre: Self-Help, Motivational
◊ Publisher: BalboaPress (October 19, 2015)
◊ Language: English
◊ ISBN-10: 1504335880
◊ ISBN-13: 978-1504335881

From broke to retired in ten years . . .

Returning home from Desert Storm, I found myself mentally and financially bankrupt. Newly divorced, I had no job, no help, and no hope. My reasons to live were gone. At the lowest point in my life, I fell back on simple truths from my childhood: hard work gets results, and it's okay to dream. And dream I did, setting goals that launched me from poverty to a life I could not have imagined. And you can do it, too.
            Dreams, Goals, and Adventure will inspire you to dream big, work toward your goals, and live your life as an adventure every day.

* Don't be afraid to dream.
* Don't accept “no” as an answer.
* Remove “can't” from your vocabulary.
* Small goals are stepping stones to much larger goals.
* Learn how to spring forward from failure.
* Know you will have to adjust.
* Live life as an adventure.

"Your experiences are so extra-ordinary and you're fascinating
to listen to. Your speaking style is humble and respectful of both your role as a speaker and of your audience, as one would expect after hearing of what you were trained to do. If others would open their lives to adventure as you have they would love their life even more."
~Jim Cathcart, author of the bestsellers: The Acorn Principle and Relationship Selling. CEO of 

Michael Ditton is an entrepreneur, personal development coach, and student of life. In addition to helping others realize their dreams, he can be found sailing or traveling in search of new adventures.

“When met by unexpected challenges, embrace them wholeheartedly as opportunities for adventure and education.”

I developed Goal-Setting Basics to help others interested in learning how to set goals. In my twenties, I had to gather these valuable bits of information a piece at a time. This site offers you an array of information, tools, and resources to help you in identifying, setting, and accomplishing your goals, whatever they might be. In these tools are free worksheets and examples to help you succeed. You will find Goal-Setting Basics is your single source for all of your goal-setting needs.

Financial Independence means having control over your time
without worrying about the ability to pay your bills” … So many think they have to be as wealthy as Bill Gates to live a rich life, that is so far from the truth … Let me show you how.

Meet The Author Event, La Cruz

I was a dreamer from an early age. To this day I believe anyone can do whatever they choose to put their mind to.

I didn’t go from eight years old to semi-retired in the length of one sentence. Nor was it easy. But I did follow a simple, time-honored process.
I was in my twenties before I fully understood the true importance of goal setting. After that, I was able to be more focused, see where I wanted to be, how I was going to get there, notice when I needed to make adjustments, and had the satisfaction of reaching goals. I enjoyed the benefits of reaching a goal and putting a big, fat check mark on my list.

Here’s how those goals paid off:
At 8, sold vegetables door to door from my little red wagon
Age 13, supervisor, World’s Fare Hamburgers
Age 15, assistant manager trainee, Pizza Hut
Age 16, assistant manager, Round Table Pizza
Age 18, began a 20-year commitment with the U.S. Army and Army Reserve, retiring in 2005 as a staff sergeant and Desert Storm veteran. Over my service career I became a leader and was recognized and awarded for my achievements and outstanding service.
Age 20, found my true calling as a sales professional
Age 31, began a successful career in real estate and real estate investments
Age 36, semi-retired
Age 37, owned and operated several companies
Age 41, semi-retired, sold everything and sailed south on his 45’ sailboat

Although I found success at a very early age, I became painfully aware of how quickly it can all be taken away. In 1991, after I returned from Desert Storm, I found myself bankrupt, mentally, physically and financially and divorced.

It was the lowest point in my life. Four years later, I had clawed my way back to even, and started to build from there. Two years after that, following my roadmap of goals, I reached my first level of financial independence. The rest is history.

For more on Michael, you can connect with him at the following sites:

For those following his tour, Michael is offering a special price on the Kindle eBook format of DREAMS, GOALS, AND ADVENTURE at a reduced cost of just 99 cents! Readers can also get a FREE copy of Michael’s GOAL SETTING BASICS in the eBook format. For one or both of these special offers just CLICK HERE!

Thanks for visiting during Michael’s tour stop. Are you following your dreams?


Wednesday, May 3, 2017

IWSG: Bittersweet

It’s time for another group posting of the IWSG: Insecure Writer’s Support Group! Time to release our fears to the world – or offer encouragement to those who are feeling neurotic. If you’d like to join us, click on the tab above and sign up. We post the first Wednesday of every month and encourage everyone to visit at least a dozen new blogs and leave a comment. Your words might be the encouragement someone needs.

Be sure to link to IWSG and display the badge in your post.

IWSG is the brainchild of our noble Ninja Captain and leader Alex J. Cavanaugh

Our Twitter handle is @TheIWSG and hashtag is #IWSG

Every month, we announce a question that members can answer in their IWSG post. These questions may prompt you to share advice, insight, a personal experience or story. Include your answer to the question in your IWSG post or let it inspire your post if you are struggling with something to say. 

Remember, the question is optional!

May 3 Question: What is the weirdest/coolest thing you ever had to research for your story?

The awesome co-hosts for the May 3 posting of the IWSG will be Nancy Gideon, Tamara Narayan, Liesbet @ Roaming About, Michelle Wallace, and Feather Stone!

Please stop by and thank them for their time. 

Whenever I'm ill, which isn't often, I feel vulnerable. Especially when I don't understand the why. I can't believe I would attract a horrible experience into my life. Nor would I purposely scare my husband. He's a fixer, and when he can't fix things, he suffers. 

The hives I contacted last month in Bucerias were so bad that dear husband tried to switch flights with me and have me sent home in his place. His flight was April 8th and mine was April 21st. 

Fortunately, the hives cleared up in three days and dear husband left assuming I'd be fine. We do this a lot, take separate flights. 

Four days later, at 10:45 in the morning, a pigeon caught its wing in the rod iron fixture holding up the A/C unit at our front door. I stood on a stool, reached through the re-bar wall, and after several stressful minutes, freed him.  

That was my goal, to free him. So when he died, stunned--I jerked, which in turn toppled the stool. The front door was open and I fell onto my right side just inside the apartment. 

We live on the top floor of a walkup apartment. When I realized I was in trouble, I decided to "fix" the problem. I crawled 7 metres believing I could reach the dining room chair and pull myself upright. Halfway, I reached the small alcove bed and after two more hours, pulled the pillows and comforter to the floor. I knew if I didn't warm up I'd likely get pneumonia. 

People have asked since then how I managed to cope. Truth is I didn't manage. So many horrendous thoughts ran through my mind. I yelled at the top of my lungs, yet nobody heard me. I prayed, cried, begged. Talked to my dead parents. I tried to stay strong. I sang Rolling Stones' songs, recited aloud all the blessings in my life. I later learned that two friends (at different times during the day) were on their way to see me, only to have their plans changed at the last moment. 

When Mary, the apartment manager found me at 7:30 in the evening, I cried like a little girl. She called 911 and summed friends. Soon, my little apartment filled with neighbours who each tried in their own way to comfort me. Luis' eight year old little girl, patted my shoulder and told me I'd be okay. Luis' mother rubbed my leg and reminded me that God was with me. Luis rushed about the apartment, gathering everything he thought I'd need in the hospital. Later, I found toothpaste and my toothbrush in my purse. 

Mary called my dear friend, Lulu (Lourdes), who went with me in the ambulance and stayed on the sofa beside my hospital bed until my husband finally found a flight from Canada two days later. 

The fall broke the top of my right femur. Because of the severity of the break, I had a full hip replacement on April 14th. I can't emphasize enough how wonderful the doctors and nurses were. I was treated with care, respect and kindness for 6 days. During the day, friends stayed by my side while dear husband packed up our apartment, cleaned floors, and scrubbed the fridge. In the evening he slept on the sofa beside my bed. 

It wasn't until a dear lady from my La Cruz Writer's group offered a rental house across from her place, rent free, that I realized there was no way I'd be able to climb the 54 steps to our apartment once I was released from the hospital. She is just one of the many wonderful people that stepped forward to help us during this difficult time. One friend lent us a walker, another did research for physiotherapy, another called their orthopaedic surgeon for a second opinion, and another drove us to the airport from Nayarit to Jalisco.  

I know accidents are never timely. But this happened when I was supposed to be finishing my current WIP, a manuscript I've been struggling with for several years. This happened when I should have been marketing a new ebook. 

My publisher put out a request, and a some terrific bloggers came to my rescue, which shouldn't surprise me considering we belong to an awesome blogging community.

Still, I cry when I think about it. And I'm sad because I still haven't visited their sites. 

Today is the first time I've been at the computer since the accident. Not just because it hurts to sit for too long, but because I'm depressed. I need to understand why this happened. And not just the accident, but the 8 hours while I waited for someone to find me. I need to replace the doubt that has taken over. Before the accident I was of the mindset that everything will always work out. Now I'm not so sure. 

My doctor says it's the result of a concussion that has me feeling vulnerable and emotional. He says that though I may feel as if I'm standing still, I will recover, grow strong again, and in time understand the good that came from this. 

I hope he's right. I like that other joylene better, the one who believes everything always works out. It's what this blog has been about from the beginning. 

After 5 years of having our house on the market, someone is interested in buying our home. No, I have no idea how I'm going to manage packing up 25 years worth of stuff while using a walker. 

I have a lot to be grateful for. I know that. One day this will make sense. And when it does, I'll share that too. Meanwhile, I won't be around for awhile. I've turned off comments for your benefit. To those of you who have taken the time to email me privately, I will answer each of you soon. First I need to succeed at pain management and get a good night's sleep. 

Thank you for the wonderful birthday wishes and all the get well messages. You really are a treasure that I give thanks for every single day.